You can do whatever you want, it doesn't have to be right.Maybe they don't have to be equal at your eardrums but if I want the two channels to be balanced at mine? If the measurments says it's fine and the balanced is shifted one side when I listen I should just accept it even if it diminish my enjoyment? You see something wrong with the example I gave you? The image is greatly improved for me with a large tip on the right and medium on the left. This have been found out by listening. should I just say, well, miniDSP ears tells me it's correct so I am going to listen to this Kickdrum and lead vox shifted stage left?
IEMs has no relation to outer hear, distance, how you would hear in "real life"... It is all about you ear canal.
(with IEM's you obviously have to choose a tip that fits your ear, like you've done).